Different type of love languages

Nov 18

Yday I went to Times to chk out competition and I know I can write at least better than 80 percent of them.
When I was driving, I was also planning a short autobiography of my Inner Journey

Now reading the book my ex-staff bought me - abt the love languages of single written by a Pastor. She gave me this book abt 5 mths back n I wasn't keen to read. Yday, I recall the attention issue, so I pick up.

The 5 love languages for Singles by Gary Chapman
Married or single, young or old, every human has the emotional need to feel loved. When the need is met, we move out to reach our potential for God and good in the world. However, when we feel unloved, we struggle simple to survive.

Soul - agreed on the precept, but in my case I work on to love myself on my own. Now I finally love myself, m ready for God and husband.

The 5 love language
Love is a learned response, a learned emotion

Soul - that cld be possible.

The 5 love language
Stage 1 - Obsessive/passionate love
What is true is that love requires a little work during its initial stage. But one doesn't work to fall in love. It just happen

Soul - this process is similar to my journey in meditation. I did the initial work but the rest of the stages, I just fell into it. It was effortless.


The 5 love language
Stage 2 - covenant love
Passion must be fed and nurtured. It will not continue to flow simply becos we remain in the rship.
It is different from Stage 1, the obsessiveness we have had for each other began to fade and we recognise that there are other important pursuits in life in addition to pursuing each other.
You now see the imperfection n wonder were u blind.
Then u began to request and demand of the person and when he or she refuses to meet ur demand, u withdraw or u lash out in anger, which wld pushes ur lover further away from u.

Soul - I did hav stage 2 wit CT, which was eons ago. But now I m thinkin more of my connection wit yoga meditation. But of cos, last part not true lah. While I didn't do meditation this mornin, it doesn't mean I abandon it. I had too little sleep n nose n throat blocked n sore. Now voice also gone. No lah, m still in Stage 1 n forever b for yoga meditation cos Self Love is so enriching.


The 5 love language
Stage 2 - covenant love
Convenant love is conscious love. It is intentional ove. It is a commitment to love no matter what
It requires thought and action.
It does not wait for the encouragement of warm emotion but chooses to look out for the interest of the lover because you are committed to the other's well-being.
Our behaviour will affect the other person's emotion. Infact, if we learn to express love in the other person's love language, he/she will feel loved.
And if that person reciprocates by speaking our love language, he/she will meet our emotional need for love.
And we will hav made the transition from the euphoria of passionate love to the deep, settled confidence of convenant love.
We love each other and our love will endure becasue we choose to nurture love by learning how to express love effectively.
Convenant love requires two factors ; knowledge of the nature of love and the will to love.

Soul
Suddenly I tot I can apply this to my Top 5 Passion. I admit I am smart n can linked up the connection intuitively.

The 5 love language
Stage 2 - covenant love
If we want the other person to feel loved, we must discover and learn to speak his/her primary love language.
Some single adults do not feel loved by their parents, not because their parents did not love them, but becos the parents never learned to speak the child's primary love language.
Many managers - faced same thing wit their staff.
Long term friendship - frustation or unappreciation.
Learning to speak love and appreciation in a language the other person can receive is the key to enhancing all human relationships.

Soul
For me, my primary love msg, is allowing me to express myself, acknowledging my feelings. Mom doesn't do that, she gives in terms of services n food n follow thru. Perhaps that's why I didn't realise I was loved until my good friend pointed out how well loved I am by my family. All my physical needs are taken care off. No cooking, washing, ironing and cleaning. True, this thing I didn't like n I tot they like to do. But perhaps it is an expression of their love n I was never asked to do housework cos they know I don't like it n they love me so much that they don't wan me to do things that I dislike.
Mmm, there is something here in this book. Thank you.