Love languages...further understanding

Dec 3
Father, don't wan to come from fear. Need to hold the std.

The 5 love language
If u r going to request that someone to make a change in their behaviour, u r more likely to see that change if the person feels loved and appreciated by you.

Soul - tot of d CEO, it won't be easy cos it is not worthwhile. Her insecurity overrides everything else.

Tot of myself, wakin up to do yoga at 5 am. Can't imagine it. This mornin, I really wan to sleep back. But I recall I need to face CEO n I needed Internal Support n also tonite dinner wit ex-colleague, so no meditation. I did it out of need n discipline. But m glad, had good laugh after hatha n now d legs can touch the back floor so much easier, can't believe. It used to be impossible n now possible.
Father, give me strength to face CEO. I don't feel loving towards her these few days.

The 5 love language
Manipulation is the use of fear or threat to force someone to do something against his will.
Love is an effort to do something for the benefit of the other person, sometimes followed by a request that would make life better for u.

Soul - tot of CEO. She is definitely feeling unloved n now no PA to comfort her even. She is denying d fact that she is responsible for people not loving her, perhaps hating even. She wants to be a bitch n yet expect adoration. That's a tall order.
Tot of her karma year - the year she reaped the benefit/loss that she sowed previously. Of cos, it shld be loss since she operated on fear.

Tot of my conversation wit GM, she said my dream career is not out of my league. She can see me doing writing and coaching.

The 5 love language
Discovering the primary love language of ur child will help u to invest the time u have available in the best possible way to meet the emotional needs of ur child.
Parents will be more effective in loving their children if they speak regularly the child's primary love language and sprinkle in the other four love language when they hav an opportunity.
Children need all 5 love language, but without their primary love language, their emotional love tank will likely remain empty.

Soul - yea, quality time n physical touch, very litte. That's why I cherish meal times wit family. Going to holiday wit family.
Actually, m an emotional person that has learnt to shut off to become a mind person.
They never asked me what I m thinking and feeling - that sharing is love to me.
And when even during the molest case, they didn't ask, I felt so unloved n I clamped up.

The 5 love language
Each child has a primary love language - the language that speaks most deeply to the soul of the child and meets the emotional need to feel loved.
If parents fail to discover and speak the child's primary love language, they child may feel unloved eventhough the parents is using other languages
And when u use a child's primary love language in a negative way, it hurts that child even more deeply than it would hurt another child.

Soul - yeap.
Tot of my brother always critiscing. No one asked me how I felt abt being criticised. No one care to know how I feel inside. No one love me. No wonder m hurt so badly, I decided not to feel.

I also recalled mom tellin me to snap out of sadness (jus like my old friend) n that further hurt cos I can't even allow to feel. I can't even love myself.
Now I know why I don't love myself. Cos when I m not allowed to feel, which is my primary love language - then I don't feel loved.
All my Control is preventing me to feel, preventing me from loving myself.
Amen

Its becos no one asked, I stopped sharing at home n of cos also stopped giving at home too - my wisdom n my hugs.

Like my niece, she love hugs n she felt loved by me.

1. Physical touch
Hugs, kisses, a pat on d back, hand on the shoulder, holding hands or even touching a child as u walks out of the room.

2. Words of affirmation
I love u, you look nice. You did a good job. Thanks for helping me. I m proud of u.

3. Thru quality time.
Giving ur child undivided attention.
Discover their interest and enter into their world.
Physical proximity does not equal quality time. Only if the child senses that he is the focus of his father attention, then the child felt loved. Asking them abt what they think n how they feel.

4. Thru gift
Somebody thinkin of me.

5. Thru act of service.

Suddenly tot of me in office. My primary love language is quality time n physical touch, which I don't expect to get in office environment. So, now wonder m not affected by office.

The ones affected are those that requires affirmation and physical