Anger is a result of exclusion

Sadhguru
Your anger has nothing to do with anybody except yourself, only yourself.

Only because you believe your anger has something to do with somebody else, it keeps happening over and over again. If you see that it is only about you and you alone, it would not have lasted this long.

So being angry and upset about something, comes from a strong sense of like and dislike. This strong sense of like and dislike comes from a very deep identification with a certain way of thinking, of feeling, of life - which you think is the best way to live, to feel and think.
If someone is not in line with that, you get angry at those things.
As your likes and dislikes become stronger, as your identifications become stronger with one thing or another, all that you are doing is excluding existence.

If I say, "I like this very much", in a big way, I am excluding the rest of existence at that moment.
So, the stronger it becomes, the deeper the exclusion becomes.
The very process of liberation is to include, not to exclude.
In exclusion, you are trapped and separated.
In inclusion, you are liberated.
When everything, not just everything - when the whole existence is included in you, only then you are liberated.

Once you have disidentified with yourself, ur values, ur personality, u then become identified with the Universe.

So, anger is not the karma. Exclusion is the huge karma. It is because of exclusion that the anger overflows, because you have not included somebody or something as part of yourself.
Anger is just an indicator.

Soul - tot of d incident on the electrical failure. At first instance, I got angry at Admin for takin a trip while the maintenance is on, forcing me to do it. Then I tot of her salary vs the previous Admin - 50%, already very good vfm, so should not ask more and the anger died. Wasn't even angry when I had to stay till midnite and the electricity was out the next day and I got major scolding from boss.

When I decided reporting was of low value, I felt angry at having to do and hence was resentful. But once I lifted the VFM mode and acknowledge reporting is to be, I become liberated.

Now this communication of step by step, instructional - which I also viewed as low value and demeaning to me n to the other person make me less of a Communicator which I know I am. Apart from VFM mode, I guess my brain always accelerate skip and hence to do step by step comm, slows me down as I then need to fill in the gap. Mmm. Jus like my lesson now is to allow myself to feel the whole spectrum of emotion, including negative ones. Perhaps, I am also to learn to use the whole spectrum of my mind.
Father, am ready to remove the VFM mode, step by step commn is here to stay and I learned cos I wan to liberate myself.

Father, I have read this passage before but it never hit me. In understanding my boss as my mirror, I understand myself. Wil let go of my VFM mode that has done the filtering but grown to exclusion. Just like my boss uses her anger to get her way all to the top, but now it is the time to drop, but she is still holding on.

Let me have the awareness to drop the VFM mode. (Now perhaps this is what my Miser card is about)