Quality conversation means I care

Nov 25
Yeap, there is a possibility for everything, for me to reach out to people and be paid n for me to have my loving husband.
Jus now my ego was telling me that its not possible. I ignored it and said if meditation, shoulder stand and waking up at 5 am is now possible, what is not possible. Not forgetting suria namaskara. I didn't knew that most people can only do 5 cycles. Anyway, when they share with me their approach, I realised that its bbecos they r doing it like a physical exercise. They are not doing it wit awareness n forget to breathe at every posture. I m glad I didn't knew that others cannot do 12 cycles and hence it may not be possible for me too, I jus do it without any tot of achieving.

Father, I look good n rested n at ease. Jus now ego said I hav work waiting for me. I said yea, but since I can't and won't do it now, don't hav to worry or think abt it.

Yday, d guy at IE says let's stay together as one big family. I agree wit him. That's my commitment to Sathsang. I wan to bring people back together. I wan our family to be bigger.

5 love languages
Quality time - spending time together in a common pursuit communicates to each other that they care about each other, that they enjoy being wit each other.
The focus is not on d activity but on the emotional level of connecting wit each other.

One of the most common dialects in quality time is quality conversations. By that I mean sympathetic dialogue where 2 individuals are sharing their experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context.
Hearing wit genuine desire to understand each other thoughts, feelings and desires. Focusing on drawing u out wit question n etc in order to understand better.
When I invest 30 min in such a conversation wit u, I hav given u 30 min of my life.
Quality conversations communicates that I care.

Soul - that's what I do whenever I help people. That's why whenever people said m not giver, I always reiterate I am cos I spend quality conversations giving myself. I don't do gifts or service/courtesy or even affirmation but I give myself in quality conversations.


5 love languages
Sympathetic listeners
1. Maintain eye contact
2. Don't engage in other activities while u r listening to another individual
3. Listen for feelings
4. Observe body language
5. Refuse to interrupt
6. Ask reflective questions
7. Express understanding
8. Ask if there is anything u might do that would be helpful. - notice asking and not telling. Even helpful advice can be viewed as controlling if not requested.

Quality activities
Be willing to enter into each other's interest in order to have time together.

Tot of teacher n her sharing abt not wanting to marry cos she doesn't wan a guy to control her life. At first I tot something there n said that's its good to know ur issue before u meditate, then u will know ur issue n can attend to it.
But now 2nd tot, m not in Lebanon, perhaps things r real volatile there n there is lack of freedom for women, so I cannot judge.

5 love languague
We must not force our own love language on another person; rather we must learn to speak his/her love language.

The whole concept of 5 love language is learning to speak the other person's language, not ur own.
What makes the other person feel loved is the key question.


Soul
Jus finished my meditation. It has been a long time since I cried so much. When doing shakti, the breathing, suddenly saw Vijii and I cried n cried; then when doing surka kriya, I recall Sadhguru's poem I read yday - become Him, become Love and reach out. I felt the message was for me to do sathsang, to bring his flock back.
During the quiet moment, this time able to sit all the time, I think I finally did the cat stretch well, my head goes up. I also think that its due to me now doing rocking baby. I have stopped rocking baby since shoonya back in august. Perhaps that's why my spine can't take it. Luckily attended d first day n Sadhguru said I need to take care of the spine, without a good spine, I can't fly.
Now that m sitting n also focusing on third eye, the experience is so vivid. I laugh loads.

All this despite mind playin trick on me, standing up to close door, suddenly tot house got burglared, the fear was there but I jus continue wit meditation.
Amen.

Yday, when I did the practice, was surprised that both Teacher and fellow meditator said I m good. They said they felt the ernesty in Sathsang.

Yea, I will lead the Dec 13 sathsang.