Osho - mature people rise in love and not fall in love

Mar 5
Today woke up 3.50 am. Body was fine. Had tots of Y but I waived it off by reaffirming my wish.
Did Bhoota Suddhi and Guru pooja.
Did 3 cycles of Yoga Namaskar, the spine is less stressful during the squatting posture.
Did 3 cycles of Surya kriya. Feet alignment be out if I didn't ensure my hand correctly placed.
Did a quick Shavasana.
Breathing was automatically in arashidharna posture. Such stillness. A real breakthrough. Even the breathe is so silent that I could barely sense it.


Maturity
Those who fall in love don't have any love, that's why they fall in love. And because they don't have any love, they can't give. U can go on changing ur husband or wife a thousand and one times, u will again find the same type of woman and the same misery repeated - in different forms.
U can change wife but u are not changed - now who is going to choose new wife? You will choose. The choice will come out of immaturity again. U will choose a similar type of woman again.

Soul
Tot of Z and new wife. Truly same. Previous one was Queen  of Clubs ruling and new one is Jack of Clubs ruling. At least previous one was Six of Hearts in Destiny, this one is Seven of Clubs in Destiny.

Maturity.
And one more thing - an immature person always falls in love in with another immature person, because they can understand each other's language. A mature person loves a mature person. When u are a mature person psychologically, spiritually, u don't fall in love with a baby. It does not happen. It cannot happen.
So the basic problem of love is to first become mature. Then u will attract a mature partner, then immature people will not attract u.

Soul
I have hope.
The partner I attract was physical with Z. And then mental and spiritual with Y. I am becoming more mature.

Maturity
In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. Only immature people fall, they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. Now they cannot stand - they find a man and they are gone, vice versa. They always ready to fall. They don't have the integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. When a mature person gives love, he gives without string attached. When a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that u have accepted his love, not vice versa.
And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradox of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone. Their oneness does not destroy their individuality. Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. Their individualities is not effaced - they have become enhanced.

Immature people falling in love destroy each other freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love helps each other to be more free; they help each other destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence, there is ugliness.

Soul
That's it. When I was young I said I love the person not because he woo me. I love him
Because its him. He need not do anything for me.
Looks like I m on the right track. Amen
Father, thanks for letting me wait for so long, thanks for letting me have time to grow to be mature.
I am finally ready.

Maturity
Maturity means that one is no longer a romantic fool. One understand life, one understands the responsibility of life, one understand the problems of being together with a person. One accepts all the difficulties and yet decide to live with the person. One is not hoping that there is only going to be heaven, all roses. One is not hoping nonsense. There are roses but far and few between; there are many thorns.
When u have become alert to all these problems and still decide that it is worthwhile to risk and to be with a person rather than to be alone, then get married. Then marriage never kills love, because love is realistic. Marriage can only kills romantic love.