North Node in Aries - wrongly focused on the relationship instead of the other person

Dec 25 eve

Flu again cos slept under the fan and also flu bug in the family.


North node in Aries
The growth required of them is best achieved by de-emphasising the idea that rships are necessary for their survival. They are learning to stand alone and relate to others from a new perspective. However, despite their sensitivity, these folks are often blissfully ignorant about other people, what motivates them, when they are seeking, and what kind of success they would like to achieve. Sometimes they only see the person (and themselves) on the superficial level of having immediate needs and desires that are, or are not, satisfied. They only see deeply enough into the other person's identity to manipulate him into keeping the mood harmonious. This is why people surprise or disappoint Aries North node - they never saw who the other person really was.

In many ways, Aries North node people are not relating to the other person at all - they are relating to the rship between themselves and the other person. This does not lead to truly helping their partner - or themselves to grow. The rship is not an entity; it cannot grow unless two individuals grow. Thus no matter how much time and energy these folks devote to the rships, it cannot give back to them. So they are better off examining the needs for autonomy and individual creative expression of both partners. By encouraging and inspiring the other person to achieve result of his or her own, they free both the partner and themselves to evolve as individuals.

Soul
I can see some part of these in me. Me focus on the rship and not the person.
Thats why I get disappointed.
Thats why I didn't see that Z can immediately get hitched to another gal after we broke up.
Thats why I didn't see that P can immediately blocked me from Local Isha after I said nope.
Thats why I didn't see that Y is focused on being married.