North Node - Lesson from Z - soul mate relationship

Sept 13 Aft
Father, all the drama in my mind over new division is nothing. Once I decided I don't need E's validation, I calmed down. Now, I realised there is no revert from him after I told him that we cannot cope.

Sept 13 Eve
Cosmic Love
Z is in my 8th house
Soul Mate Relationship - bring an increased awareness of the value and needs of others into ur personality.
When this is a union between mates, the sexual aspect is always blessed with a depth of emotion that makes the relationship a source of well-being on all levels. They are bringing u the gift of understanding that sex can be a pathway to deep emotional bonding and mutual nurturing.
They won't let u get away with old self-defeating behaviours u may have around relationships. They see past any unconscious blocks and will not acknowledge any barriers to joining with u - they just keep moving forward.

T and M.
This person may give u their gift in a backhanded way - ie they may teach u how to bond by withholding the bond u seek. For instance, if u have had problems with enmeshment and co-dependency in a past life, this person may help u learn to bond correctly by refusing to bond with u in any way that would reinforce these unhealthy experiences - a gift that releases u from the karmic pattern of not having appropriate boundaries.

Soul
So true. I wanted bonding and he didn't and we broke off. Then he tot I am fine, he asked for us to start back and this time I can stand on my own.

Best approach
To always begin with "I think it would be good for us to ..." or "We need ... ", u will trigger the best in them and they are likely to be receptive.

Soul
Not sure about this. I can only remember one time, when I said I am responsible for my body and its outcome from our union. He corrected me and said "We are responsible".

Best approach
As u discover that there are things that are important to u that ur partner doesn't value, their influence teaches u to take care of those needs on ur own. In fact, part of having a healthy Soul Mate relationship has to do with getting ur own needs fulfilled rather than expecting ur partner to meet all ur needs all of the time.

Soul
I valued yoga and meditation and he doesn't. So, I need to ensure I take care of it. I am into Isha, he is not so and I just go on my own
As for my writing, he is not interested and I excluded him.
Aiyah..lots of my things he is not keen....Luckily I am independent.

Past life influences
In past, they were responsible for forcing u to become self-reliant in a way that was not healthy for u and deprived u of the experience of being in a bonded, mutually empowering relationship.
This resulted in a psychic surgery that create an exaggeration of self-sufficiency due to ur fear of trusting a bond with another.

The first time u meet this person, u may feel a tremendous desire combined with deep mistrust. But when u see their willingness to share everything with u so freely, u could come overly excited, blindly accept the bond that had been denied u for so long and just begin living ur life with them.

The challenge is to slow down and determine how their values and goals actually fit what is important to u. Then u can make good decisions that can help u build successful results that are mutually satisfying.

Once u have received their gift and reclaimed ur ability to merge with another in ways that revitalise and empower u, u can continue building with them - if ur values are compatible or go out on ur own.

Either way u will have gained an awareness of ur ability to do what u truly value in the world and have a whole new level of energy, self-confidence, and determination.

Z is my 8th house - gift of soul mate bonding
Me is in Z's 1st house - gift of independence.
This is a unique situation where as a couple they were learning how to be in a committed relationship without losing their individuality - and their personal astrological charts showed that each of them was challenged with learning this lesson. They had subs consciously attracted each other when they were ready, so they both could master it.

As Z accepts my gift and allow me to help him recognise that he can do things on his own, Z's demonstration motivates me to actively begin exploring my independence and pursuing my own talents. In this way, we both empower each other to evolve into the full expression of ur own unique potential.