Cosmic Lesson (15) - Ekhort Tolle (Findhorn Retreat)

Feb 20 Aft

Ekhart Tolle
Findhorn Retreat (DVD)
Compulsive striving for more to fulfill myself. More possessions, attaintment, recognition, relationships and etc.

Achieving "More" temporarily given u the feeling that u have now added urself into the universe, that u r special, that u achieved fullness of life.

There are 2 ways being unhappy
1. Getting what u want
2. Not getting what u want.

1. Getting what u want
Once people recognised me, I will arrive. At first it feels good. Then u realise u don't feel special after awhile. And u feel even worse as there is now no hope.

That sense of specialness - more than; better than. It worked through comparison.

We go through life; to strengthen the fiction of ourselves (story we give ourselves).

Some people who can't get the recognition, goes thru the victim identity instead. Their stories is that life is always unfair towards them. It gives them a specialness that they have suffering unlike others.

The mind is always afraid of losing its story. Only if the dream becomes unpleasant, then u will want to wake up. Otherwise, u continue with ur story.

Use ur awareness and see how the conceptual self act to survive, to protect themselves, to use others to make themselves feel better / fear them.

When u constantly complain about somebody or something that has no practical results, when u r constantly in conflict with the present moment; its means u r right, others are wrong and then u feel special.

U need something to happen, to become urself (Future). Or something had happened that prevent u to become urself (Past). U always live in the future or the past.

Ways that u can awaken
1. Physical illness can wake u up.

2. Connecting with animal can wake u up.
Animals, who are still rooted in being, are one with life. Animal does not have a conceptual identity, unlike human. With the animal, u can just be urself. U need not protect urself psychologically.

3. With nature, they r surrendered to life, one with life. When u watch them, u can also be present.

The more u r on ego, the more u have opinion about others. And at times u cannot even relate to animal.

A sense of self, which is always insufficient, always needing more, always needing someone / conflict / complaints to make urself be.

Relationship
Two sets of tots, they r not seeing each other. They r seeing the conceptual image of each other.
Each one both needing and fearing the other.

Ways to transform relationships:
Your relationship change because you don't demand that the other person should do something for u to enhance ur sense of self.
You don't compare urself with others or try to be more than someone else to add to ur sense of identity
You allow everyone to be as they are.
You don't need to change them; you don't need them to behave differently so that u can be happy.


The essence of specialness is the feeling of beingness. Beauty and specialness that is the essence of ur being.

The self that is identified in any form is an illusion. The essence of being incarnate in form. But u need to know that u r beyond form. To lose oneself, u suffer. U losing urself in some tot form. So everybody is looking for their essence of their being in the future, through having more.

The one place u can only find urself is the present moment. On the level of form, u can be temporarily more. U cannot to be more, as u r already complete.
To be who u r, u don't need time.
As long as u r identified with form, it is frustrating. U can never accumulate all the forms (health, finance, rship, work, living situation, etc.) u need at any point of time. Forms are never stable.
And hence u forever in a state of frustration.
U r demanding that the world of forms complete them, give them the sense of self. If it doesn't happen, u feel u r not complete.

The world cannot make me happy, even I achieved the forms that I think I need. Whatever forms u encountered in life cannot make u happy forever.
With the light of awareness, if u can see the impermanent nature of all forms, the fictitious nature of ur mind's story.

When u give up demanding, people, places or situation to make u happy. Then u allow the forms to be what they are. The forms is always is as they is.

Most human are in conflict with the isness of life either thru run away, complaining...

When u see the world cannot do for u, u stop demanding and u be with whatever is.
Drop the demand from the world, from situation, from people, from partner to satisfy u. Bring an inner alignment to Now. U do not internally separate urself from now. Whatever forms this moment takes, it all is as it is.
An enormous freedom comes when u drop the demand from world.
One step at a time. Nothing to do with form. The stillness arise because u allows the forms to be what they are. Just embrace it. It doesn't diminish ur ability to change whatever is required.
Then ur action is from a completely different energy field.

When u are alignment with what is, intelligence arise. Ur action is not to strengthen urself or diminish other; its win win.
Bring a yes to a present moment.
Accepting the present, also means accepting the past.

U can improve the forms, as long as u don't get identified with it. You can play with the world of forms, when u drop ur demands that it should make u happy.

Then wherever, whoever, whatsoever situations, persons will be quite satisfying. U have touched something within urself that is beyond ur tots of forms.
This requires a certain degree of presence to avoid being taken over by the ego.
The moment u become friendly with what is, no matter what forms it takes, everything become pleasant. And the forms will change anyway.

Soul
Is this effortless living.

Ekhart
Not to say yes to the story of ur life, eg accepting ur failures and etc.
Saying yes to the present moment only (takes u out of ur story), to break the continuity between past and future.
You step out of the story and feel the aliveness of ur presence.
Before u r dominated by time, use time instead. Experience the present.

When u r no longer dependent on the forms in ur life, ur stillness is. All the beauty, aliveness and joy is there even if the forms are crumbling.

U become intelligent when u have access to ur being. Ur stories will unfold more harmoniously because u no longer demand it to make u happy. You no longer depend on forms to define who u r, ur neediness is gone. Who u r comes out of ur stillness, ur aliveness.

U create problems by thinking.
The solution comes when u step out of tot, when u become stillness and alive.

Relationship
You don't demand the other do something for u
You don't compare with others
It is fine for everyone to be who they are.

Things not to do to ur partner, to people;
If u behave differently, I will be happy. In the meantime, I will be unhappy. I will show u my unhappiness.

Once u become one with nature. Nature will become helpful, to teach u to be still, to be alive.

If u can feel the stillness of trees, that's means u have the stillness.

Just be with nature. Firstly u see the form. Then u may notice the life form of urself.

The power of now - the sacred space.
Allow life to live freely through u so that it can flower. Flowering can take through form or its just a state of being/emanation of love.

Love is the recognition of the formless in another.

Soul
Father, thank U so much. I know I agreed to stay put. But mind is talking so much and I need a new approach. Alas I found hope of how to approach this.
I may say all that I want to deflate him and myself, but in the end I do want Z.