Criticism is not an equivalent of disapproval

Nov 24 eve
Read this perfect message

https://www.facebook.com/hollieholdenlove/posts/671446679639208:0
In other words, I discovered all my rules. Love me this way. Love me by doing this. And, of course, those around us can only love in their own way. And just because they do not do it 'right' - on our terms - does not mean they do not love us.

Realizing that nobody is coming to save us or jump through our hoops or fulfil our every need - giving up the search for that - is the most empowering thing we can realise for ourselves.

And hard I know, to let the whole world off the hook. But essential if we want to grow ourselves up and really be here.

So here's my suggestion to you if you are feeling unloved:

You are loved and held already. You just can't see it sometimes because the people who love you can't squeeze themselves into your particular rules about how you need to experience their love.

Interesting thought, don't you think.....


Soul
Had a good chat with both my staff. Coincidentally one of them is the sensitive one who truly cares the opinion of her senior. She is even afraid whenever she approach her senior cos fear of being found lacking. Even things that she can do but due to fear, she stumble. She said she is sad and cry much cos she tot her senior doesn't care. I told her senior suffering too cos unable to sleep when received her message.

I told her that my brother too was critical of me. Years later I found out that he love me most.

Now I realised that whenever I m criticised I tot I m being unliked. Whereas their criticism has nothing to do with liking me or not.

Comment by a reader.
I wish people like that girl would realize how much they actually HURT their loved ones... because she never even thought how people felt when she was pushing them away...and then waiting for them to break down walls she created. but you knock one wall, and there comes up one more and more and more... it NEVER ends. it's not at all waiting "to be loved", it is fear and it's cruel and it really hurts.

Soul
Mmmm. Z told me that in the beginning. He asked me how many doors are there.

Paul Lewis
I appreciate your trying to help and provide less painful perspective and indeed your words ring true to me... And its been my experience that when someone is in this kind of pain that it is old but real childhood pain trying to be released as grief... Its not really about now...and as such just being a kind and gentle presence to this can often help the years of frozen tears release and open the heart again... And we all know an open heart knows how to connect with others

Soul
This is so true.
Guess there are remnants.

Comment by another reader.
Nishant Setia
You got me hollie... Love is more delicious, astonishing and interesting and depthfull and really freedomfull when we let go if fixed ideas of love...and it helps us realise how much love we missed in life just because of imagined fixed perception of what love is like... Our whole body becomes the channel of love when we allow ourself to experience love in its every colours, taste and attitudes....

Think about getting criticised as a expression of being loved... It's so funny and warm...

Lots of love.. I mean.. Be love.

Soul
Mmmm. Maybe true. Need to alter my perspective.

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

These messages are so much me. Looking back that's why I went on this inner journey.

And of course learning from my natal chart; I had so many