Finally see the source of criticism is insecurity

Dec 12 aft 2
The power of empathy
Criticisms can be well deserved, and when they hit the mark, they have much to teach us. But crucial comments can also be undeserved, unnecessary and manipulative. Sifting the wheat from the chaff is an important, challenging task.
If you find urself are often critical of others, use ur empathy to discover the source of ur insecurities. In my experience people who do a lot of criticising are often insecure; feeling unsteady and unprotected, they tend to lash out at others.
A tendency to be critical of self and/or others

Soul
That's how I recently see my brother. I saw that he needs to put me down unnecessarily just to bring himself up.
Mmm, wonder if P is like that too. She is definitely critical of many people.
As for me I m sensitive towards criticism cos my love language is  word affirmation.

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important— hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You thrive on hearing kind and encouraging words that build you up.

The power of empathy
When u are convinced that a person is trustworthy and authentically cares about u, enter the rship wholeheartedly

Soul
No wonder I always get hurt by P.  I think affirmation words definitely not her love language cos she said tend to be direct with people close to her.
Wonder how she show love. Services, perhaps.
Mmm or maybe gifts. She truly show up when I went to Kailash. Gave me good advice and loaning me stuff for the trips. That's was loving of her.

Mmmm, guess we both at different end of love language.
No wonder while we both do respect each other but somehow tend to have conflict. Me feeling hurt and she tot I m drama.

The power of empathy
The ability to be alone is necessary condition for acceptance of ourselves and others. Not until we learn how to be comfortable alone with ourselves can we be comfortable with others.

Erich Fromm
If I am attached to another person because I cannot stand on my own feet, he or she may be a lifesaver, but the rship is not of love. Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love.


Dec 19
Just received a message from P.
I now realised that she never see me as a friend. I can now let go of her too from my circle of close friends.
No more seeking her approval. No more seeking her validation.
No more hoping that she be 'nice'.
No more hoping that she will 'share' her experiences.
No more holding on to her for linkage to local Isha.
Now that I have let go of Local Isha..I can let go of her too.
No more...
Feel relieved, similar to the relief I felt when I let go of S.