Taking responsiblity for my happiness

Jul 24 eve 1

Julian Hall for Tinybuddha
I slowly started to take responsibility for my happiness and meeting my own needs. I started to like myself and moved on to respecting myself, and I eventually lost my reliance upon others for validation.

As I started this slow transformation, a funny conundrum revealed itself to me. When I used to demand respect, validation, and love, I never got enough of them. As I started to respect myself, I found others respected me more, and now I have an abundance of respect, love, and validation.

Does that sound smug?

I hope not. By taking responsibility for my needs, I am now able to have healthy, giving relationships that are not based upon giving in order to receive. By having a healthy relationship with myself, I have healthy relationships with others.

Start by raising your awareness. Observe the needy, manipulative behaviors in others—it’s easier that way—and then start to notice them in yourself, and identify what need you’re trying to get others to meet for you.

Soul
Love this especially i know of my inner child feelings of being unloved, of fear of losing validation.

Helping others only out of 'sharing'; not out of validation