Slowly seeing the good in me.

Nov 7 aft

INFJ by Koty Neelis
3. You’re a highly empathetic and sensitive person with an innate ability to understand what people are going through. Your care and concern for others is always genuine and you feel deeply for others.

7. Sometimes you forget to take care of yourself. You become so passionate about certain projects or things going on with other people that often you end up exhausted and weary. When you’re so busy trying to take care of the world you must remember to take care of yourself as well.

9. You can be loyal to a fault. You recognize everyone has flaws and you try to see the beauty in people’s weaknesses over judging them. The problem lies when others don’t give you the same courtesy and you end up feeling bitter or resentful.

11. The true feeling of success to you is based on the condition of your relationships with others and your own level of accomplishment.

Coincidentally I am now reading the book on Emphathy.

The power of Empathy by Arthur P Ciaramicoli
At 2 months infant will cry when they see another's person tears. This is an automatic, amygdala-driven response, in which the other's misery is perceived to be one's own. In responding to mothers' happy, sad or angry faces, ten week old change their own facial expression.
By the time children are eight months to one year old, they begin to understand that they are separate and distinct from others.

Soul
Reminds me of my nephew at 2 years plus who always cries whenever he sees his brother cries. He tot he is suffering too.

Then I tot of myself, when I see others sad, I feel sad too. Thats why I avoid sad people.
Many years ago, I tot it was just the hidden sadness in me.
But now that I learned I am natural Empathy, maybe that's why I feel sad when others feel sad.

I started this journey because I tend to feel hurt by others criticism or acceptance of me, me taking things personally.  I wanted to be strong, to be unaffected by others

Now I know thats my validation issue.

But now there may be another view to these...I am affected because I am sensitive,..
It is not all weakness..it is also strength.

So, I need not dismantle myself. I just need to create boundary so I can be empathy without feeling so overwhelmed.
Amen.
Slowly but surely can see the good in me.