To let others live their way....so I can live mine too

Mar 24 eve
North node in Taurus
They tend to withhold what the other person needs. This will make the other person feel deprived, so he will retaliates by giving less to Taurus north node or giving with resentment. This seriously undermines the very bond they want to build.
The key is discrimination. Does the other expressed needs violate Taurus NN's sense of  self worth? If not, it behooves him to give the other person what she needs. Just as it is inappropriate for him to live by somebody else's values, it is inappropriate for him to expect others to live by his values. Other people are simply being themselves.

Soul
I m definitely learning. I used to do that. But the last two years, I realised my life is more peaceful if I let others do what they want as long as it doesn't affect me.

North node in Taurus
Exposure
A negative emotion floats by and they grab it, hold on to it and try to hide it. It takes tremendous energy to hide these feelings from others and the fear that someone will find out how they feel generates a lot of anxiety. They should practice revealing their emotions layer by layer. Through this process, their negative inner feelings are permanently discharged and they begin to experience less anxiety in all their interactions.

Soul
Yes, that's my auto control mode. Only after my practices, I have been able to express my negative emotion. Once I do that, the positive emotion becomes more too.

North node in Taurus
Self reliance
They are not allowed to rely on others for success because they need to rely on themselves. Thus when they count on others to create what they want and it doesn't turn out according to their high expectations, it's one more reminder that they are not allowed to rely on others for their sense of self worth.

Soul
True. Especially on my website. I tried to delegate but either it renounced or the results are not good enough.

North node in Taurus
Establishing self worth - most important goal
Their own sense of self worth is the one thing they can hang on to amid the constant shifting of public opinions. When they let others determine their worth, they are on roller coaster.
The most important goal for them is to pledge themselves to their own values and build sense of self worth. They are learning they can't establish self-worth by going along with others' values to gain validation nor can they attain self-worth through resisting others' values. Either way, they lose.
They win when they discover what is truly important and precious to them: their own values. Self-worth will come as a by-product of living according to those values.

Soul
Such irony. I tot I knew what I want. But I know it can be shifting. Hence my Three of Diamonds.

North node in Taurus
The idea is to consciously discover what is important to them; what values give them a sense of being grounded, confidant and able to face the world without anxiety. They need to ask themselves: "

1. What principles can I live by that will make me feel good about myself, give me a sense of my own self worth, and give me a solid path to follow? 

2.  Would taking this action makes me feel good about myself regardless of the consequence in the outer world?

3. Does taking this action make me feel comfortable or anxious?

4. Is this path leading to inner peace or will it create more crisis? 

5. Is my motive self validation or to gain the validation of others?

Those pathways that validates the principles they think are inherently valuable and that give them a sense of self esteem help them win.