Sadghuru - attachment is only a problem if you get attached to your personality

Dec 30 mor

Emotion the juice of life
All u are trying to do is to somehow to find fulfilment, because u are unable to bear the incompleteness of who you are. Try hard - it will not get u anywhere.
If u realise it is not getting you anywhere, u must be sensible enough to shift.
Don't try in lukewarm way, try absolutely. Once it is clear to u, u will definitely shift.

Soul
Yes, that's what I did with food and coffee. 
But in relationship because I never reached marriage, it is not enough. The grass always seems greener at the other hand. Guess I am still stuck in The Dream.

Emotion the juice of life
Question
Sadhguru, how do I not get attached to somebody or something when they have become everything to me?

Answer
If u have become attached, why are u still there? Go a little more strongly into ur attachment till nothing of u remains. If you try to detached yourself, u will only damage yourself because the very fact u are attached right now means that attachment is ur way. If attachment is ur way, get totally attached.
If u take two substances and attach them together completely, u cannot differentiate one from the other.   Get so totally attached that u cannot make out the difference. When you cannot tell the difference, there will be absolutely no problem about it.

If u get attached to ur being, what u called as "myself" will not exist.

Attachment is a problem only when u get attached to ur own body, ur ideas, ur emotions, philosophies, ur own rights and wrong, and likes and dislikes.

It is also trouble if u are getting attached to ur idea of what the other person is. The pain of attachment is only because u are getting attached to your idea of what the other person is, not really to another being.
If u can join ur energies with another person's it is just fantastic, and there is no problem. Deepen your attachment so absolutely, become so attached that time and space cannot separate u.

Soul
Mmmm. So me wanting to merge with my partner is not all  bad.

Sadhguru
If u are going to sit with anybody as a limited person, with ur likes and dislikes, u will hesitate to be attached. Ur personality is only a bundle of likes and dislikes, cravings and aversions within u. The fundamental basis of ur bondage is in likes and dislikes. Unfortunately, the logical mind makes u believe that doing what u like is ur freedom.

Soul
Mmmm.

Emotion the juice of life
Yoga means attachment. When you get attached to the existence, you are yoga.
People have misunderstood non attachment so badly. You become free only by including everything as a part of yourself. Freedom will not come because u make yourself exclusive.
If u detach yourself from everything, u will become exclusive in the existence; u become more and more of an entity.
If u include everything as a part of urself, u will have no identity left. So become attached totally. Don't be stingy in ur attachment.


Soul
Tot of giving this to Y. But I hold back cos that is compulsion. I m sharing to influence.