Man and Woman have opposite sequence in expression of physical and emotional needs

Mar 1

Father, an insight came to me why man need to have booze. Cos the booze is required for them to be loosen up and be brave for the physical venture.
They need the physical release before they feel wanted and then can be open and feel vulnerable enough to want show their feelings.

For us, we need the emotional release before we can proceed to physical. For them, they need the physical release before they can proceed to emotion.
(No wonder when I told Z that I can relate, he said I need to link it. Relate is not strong enough. Man need it. Father, I now attract strong male energy.)

So, our doorway is different.

So, he allows and encourage me to have my emotional release, so I can give him the physical release.

I too must allows and encourage him to have his physical release so he can give me the emotional release.

Our sequential order is different, that's all.

I appreciate him for encouraging me to have the emotional release I need.
I want him to appreciate me for encouraging him to have the physical release he need.

Just like I cannot let go of him because he let me release my emotional needs, he too cannot let go of me because I let him release his physical needs. That's why he couldn't let me go that night. For me that's why I couldn't let him go even when I tot I could lose.

What an insight! I wonder if anyone is aware of this. Why do people fight on this issue? Why can't we understand and accept male and female is different, with different sequential order before they can become open and vulnerable and loving.

I was open with him. I already told him that I cannot let him closer as he has not reached all my doors. That's when he decided he has to break free all my doors.