Sadhguru on man-woman relationship

Sadhguru
The attachment is not to somebody. This must be clearly understood. The attachment is to ur body. Because u r deeply attached to this body, u get attached to somebody.  If u have no attachment to this body, u cannot get attached to anybody. Please see that.

So u do not have to work on ur attachments to people around u. U really need to work on ur attachment to ur own body. As u release yourself from this, u r free from everything.

It s just that u have exposed ur body to somebody and u think that is closeness. Somewhere u have shared certain things with somebody, which u cannot share with anybody and everybody on the street.

This is because ur religions, ur cultures, ur morals have brought a certain shame and a certain sense of impurity into the basis biological process of life. It has become a way of opening up to a certain person, because the only thing u r capable of opening up to somebody is ur body. Unfortunately, this is the highest opening that people are able to offer to each other. The biggest they can offer is opening their bodies to each other. Nothing more is happening.

The secret between them is that they have opened their bodies to each other. They have a kind of nucleus between them. It is a conspiracy. It is a certain kind of conspiracy that they have, that they cannot share with anybody else.  But it is not enough.  And u will never be fulfilled with it. 

Soul
That's bit heavy. So, I m on the right track. Just focus on my practices, then I will not depend on others for my valuation. Once I am valuable inside by myself, I will no longer need validation from outstanding. 

I have overcome validation from work, validation from Isha friends and validation from my boyfriend. Or I should say my ex-boyfriend.