Sadhguru on relationships...

Nov 23 even
Father, today I did Shoonya and samyama in the evening. I felt much better. Not sure, but I m fine with his non response. Now that I know my fear, I m not as eager for my lesson. Perhaps it is over.

Sadhguru
All relationships come from a certain compulsion in u, because without fulfilling these relationships, u will be nothing.
There is another way to exist; one can exists without any relationships. One is so complete with himself that it does not matter. But right now the quality of ur relationships decides the quality of ur life. It is definitely deciding the quality of your life.

The basis of our relationships come from a certain need. U r trying to somehow make yourself happy by building different types of relationships, by doing different type of activities. In other words, somehow we try to squeeze some happiness out people; somehow we try to get some happiness out of somebody who is next to us right now.

In a man-woman relationship, they r together, they r quarrelling. If u put them apart for 24 hours, they cannot be without each other. If u put them together, they will be back to the same thing. So, u cannot be without the person; u cannot be with the person. This is trouble.

If u become a source of joy by yourself, u and ur relationships are about sharing ur joy, not squeezing joy out of somebody, then u would have wonderful relationships with everybody.

Relationships have become a problem because we r not using them to enhance our lives. We r trying to fill the gaps in our lives with relationships.

Soul
In general most of my relationships are good  I only have problems with romantic relationships. That's where my fears are. That's where I m unhappy. That's where I lost control. That's where I feel insecure. That's where I avoid because of low success rate.