Why INFJ feel so much?

Oct 13 aft 1

Feeling so much..need some answer and got this.

http://introvertdear.com/2014/05/03/infjs-feel-strong-emotions/
But sometimes, my emotions feel epic. They’re so intense that they interfere with my life. I lay in bed once for the better part of two days when a boyfriend broke up with me, broiling from the rejection and loss. Other times, I’ve felt so intensely in love or so incredibly happy from some good news that I can’t focus.
Don’t get the wrong idea. I’m not irresponsible. I’m not bipolar. People describe me as calm, level-headed, and reserved. Some would even say quiet and in the background. My friends usually come to me for advice.
The thing is, even if inside I’m an emotional wreck, outside I don’t look like I’m falling apart. A storm of emotions can be churning inside me, but most people don’t know the full extent of how I feel. I still get up and go to work and put on a face like nothing’s wrong. When people ask how I am, I say “fine.”
I’m an introvert. I don’t share myself with everyone. There are only certain people I feel comfortable sharing my emotions with, people who will understand. That number of people is, about, two.


Soul
So true..others tot I am emotionally stable.
In fact, I am not.
I am just keeping all inside, all suppressed; others don't know my feelings.
Even during those time I was so heartbroken over Z, no one knows.
With Y, at least some feelings were expressed.
Always envious of those that can project out their feelings.
perhaps thats why I got RA.


Why do INFJs feel strong emotions?
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INFJs feel strong emotions because of the way the functions in our personality are arranged.
The INFJ’s functions are, in this order, Introverted Intuition (Ni), Extroverted Feeling (Fe), Introverted Thinking (Ti), and Extroverted Sensing (Se). This is called our “functional stack,” or in other words, our mind’s preferred ways of working.

Ni is our dominant function and is like our “captain.” It’s our biggest strength and the most defining feature of our personality. Fe is second, so it’s like a sidekick to Ni. Ti and Se operate mostly below our level of consciousness, so they are usually not very well developed (at least not until later in life, when we’ve matured).
What makes our feelings overwhelming sometimes is that we don’t have a system that effectively processes them, so we don’t experience them in a controlled way. We need an introverted judging function to organize our emotions and scale them down to a manageable size, allowing us to put them in perspective. The function we have to do this is Ti, which is not a good tool to deal with emotions. Plus, it’s third in our functional stack, which means it works less efficiently than Ni and Fe, and it operates subconsciously.

Why isn’t our dominant function, Ni, which is also an introverted function, useful in handling our emotions? It’s a perceiving function that sees patterns and connections among information in our inner world. Why can’t Ni detect patterns and connections in our own emotions? The problem is the information Ni processes has to originate in the external world, because it enters our minds through Se. We notice other people’s emotions because it is information in the external world (and because Fe tunes us in to people). This means Ni is mostly blind to our own emotions. Plus, Ni isn’t a judging function, so it can’t actively organize or control anything – it only passively perceives connections.

For these reasons, we often feel out of touch with our own emotions. Our feelings seem to flow spontaneously and without direction, sometimes rising to the surface of our consciousness, other times lurking below in the depths of our subconscious. These emotions may reveal themselves to us in a flash of images or in dreams. We may be surprised by our own behavior. We may even do reckless things. Bad emotions like stress or tension from conflict may make us physically sick or keep us awake at night.

It’s not easy being an INFJ. Sometimes I have a hard time knowing how I feel about something. I become a detective, putting together the clues to solve the mystery. What does my body do when I’m around that person? What does my body language say? What feelings arise? Are they my own, or are they feelings I’ve absorbed from other people? What images do I see in my mind? How does my body feel physically?

I’m coming to terms with the passionate, powerfully emotional person that I am. Having strong emotions means I will feel and experience life in ways that other people can only wish to know.

Soul
Mmm...thats another alternative view.

Comments from a reader
I have found a ‘trick’ that other INFJs might find useful – when my emotions become too big or overwhelming, I find that writing EVERYTHING down, no matter how insignificant it may seem, helps me to ‘separate out’ all the smaller individual emotions and feelings and thoughts etc that are all ‘piled on top of each other’ making one big seemingly insurmountable mountain… and if I can break the ‘mountain’ down into lots of smaller ‘hills’, I then have a heap of small manageable things I can deal with or sort out one at a time…. rather than this huge ‘mountain’ that just seems to big…. a small ‘pile’ of sad here, a small ‘pile’ of anger there, a medium ‘pile’ of worry here, a tiny ‘pile’ of fear over there… then you can analyse each feeling on its own, and try to work out why it is there and/or what has caused or contributed to it… much easier than trying to knock down the whole mountain… :-)

Soul
Exactly why I do journaling.
In the end I realised that my journal may help others and hence i put it in a blog.
I also wanted to do my stories so I can see where and how I have grown.
So emotion brewing..but don't know what is it.
Will have to wait a bit.