U cannot love a person who hatest himself...mmm could this be Z?

Aug 25 Eve

Osho - intimacy
U can love others only if u r able to love urself. But society condemns self-love. It says it is selfishness, it say it is narcissistic.
Yes, self-love can become narcissistic, but it is not necessarily so. It can become narcissistic if it never moves beyond itself, it can become a kind of selfishness if it becomes confined to oneself. Otherwise, self-love is the beginning of other loves.
A person who loves himself sooner or later starts overflowing with love. A person who trusts himself cannot distrust anybody, even those who are going to deceive him, even those who have already deceived him. Yes, he cannot even distrust them because now he knows trust is far more valuable than anything else.

A man who trusts himself comes to know the beauty of it - comes to know that the more u trust urself, the more u bloom; the more u r in a state of let-go and relaxation, the more u r settled and serene, the more u r calm, cool and quiet. And it is so beautiful that u start trusting more and more people, because the more u trust, the more ur calmness deepen. A man who can trust will sooner or later know the logic of trust. And then one day he is bound to try to trust the unknown.

Love urself because if u don't love urself, nobody else will ever be able to love u.

Soul
I know that.

Osho - intimacy
U cannot love a person who hates himself. He will not believe u. He cannot love himself - how can u dare? He will suspect some game, some trick, some trip. He will suspect that u r trying to deceive him in the name of love. He will be very cautious, alert and his suspicion will poison ur being.

If u love a person who hates himself, u r trying to destroy his concept about himself. And nobody easily drops his concept about himself; that is his identity. He will fight with u, he will prove to u that he is right and u r wrong.
That is his identity, his ego, that's how he knows himself. If u take it away, he will not know who he is. It is too risky. He cannot drop his concept so easily. He will prove to u that he is not worth loving; he is only worth hating.
And the same is the case with u.

Soul
That's what's happening with Z. I recalled I told him is not that he is unlovable, but he makes it difficult for people to love him.
Father, thanks for this. I now understand what I am facing.