Cosmic Lesson (47) - love is commitment, involvement, risk, responsibility

Apr 26 Aft

Osho
Meditation is not really a search for enlightenment; enlightenment comes without any search. Meditation is just growing wings, or creating a space inside u so that when the guest comes u can persuade the guest to live inside u and become the host.

The quantity of ur tots is the distance. Whenever ur mind is less burdened with tots, the peak is close by.

When ur tots r utterly gone, a state of no-mind has arisen in u, then it is u - not even close. Enlightenment is u. But u have disappeared, u r no more to be found. Before that, many small satoris happens.

Soul
Father, m having lots of tots on Z. Projecting into a pleasurable future with him. Just now I was lost in tots of Z and I had to come back before I go into shoonya.

Osho
What's the difference between liking and loving?
Liking has no commitment in it, loving is commitment.
People are very afraid of saying to a person, "I love u". People are saying, "I like u" instead of "I love u" because love is commitment, involvement, risk, responsibility.
Liking is just momentary - I can like u, and I may not like u tomorrow; there is no risk in it.
When u say to a man, "I love u", u take a risk. U r saying "I love u: I will remain loving u, I will love u tomorrow too. U can depend on me, this is a promise".

Soul
I too promised him my love willingly in silence during our first date. He said he beg his wife to stay in the marriage.

My silent pledge to him;
"No worries, ur time has come. I will love u, u need not beg for it anymore"

But when he started the no commitment body rship, I got rejected and I close my emotional door, close my heart.

Soul
Answer came in both Osho book
The Inner Journey said love of the heart is required in this path.
I asked what is commitment yesterday and the answer is here now. Amen.

Osho
Love is a promise, liking has nothing to do with any promise. When u say to a man, "I like u", u say something about u, not about the man. U say, "This is how I am: I like u. I like ice cream too, and I like my car too.
When u say to a person,"I love u", u r saying something about the person, not about u. U r saying, "You are lovely". The arrow is pointing to the other person, then there is danger - u r giving a promise.

Love has the quality of promise in it and commitment and involvement. And love has something of eternity in it. Liking is momentary; liking is non-risky, non-responsible.

When u said to a man/woman, "I love u", u r simply saying, "I cannot be deceived by ur body, I have seen u. Ur body may become old but I have seen u, the bodiless u. I have seen ur innermost core, the core that is divine.

Soul
I have seen his core. I can see in his form, he is unpolished diamond. I seen the courage in him, his fine qualities, his real care, his loyalty. I have seen his substance.

I tot its because I generally can see everyone. Actually nope. I can see their behaviour but I have not found any diamond, apart from Z. He was my first.

Father, have I fallen in love with Z? I didn't realise that. I just know I have seen his core.

Osho
Liking is superficial; love penetrates and goes to the very core of the person, touches the very soul of the person.

Liking is material. Love is spiritual.

Soul
I may already in love with him. I have already committed to him. Throughout the activation of my abandonment issue, I stayed and didn't let the fear stop me with him.

When did this happen???

I always know I can see his core. But I tot its becos I can see everyone's core. Actually thats not true. I can see the fear behind the projections of others. But I cannot see their core as I have never yet see any diamond. Z was my first diamond.

I felt overwhelm by this discovery. Here I tot my heart is no open and I am not involved. Actually, the deal was already done even before we went on our first night. That's why I am so comfortable to be intimate with him, both mentally and physically. Even emotionally, I already open up before we came out.

Father, I tot I wanted to know what is commitment. I didn't realise is love. I didn't know I am already in love with him. This hit me like a brick.


(D said we are already emotionally attached when we went for our second date.)